Most people think love fades because people change.
Or because you’re not “compatible.” But that’s not the truth. The real reason most relationships struggle is because we were never taught how to:
Whether you’ve been together 3 years or 30, most couples struggle with the same thing: you don’t know how to repair. You’re not broken. But your relationship may be stuck in a loop.
Terry Real’s Staying in Love gives you the skills to shift that loop—for good. This isn’t another communication course. It’s a full system to:
This program isn’t just education — it’s transformation.
Each piece is designed to help you embody change and make it stick:
with Terry Real — guiding you step by step through the Relationship Grid, boundaries, disconnection, and repair.
with Terry Learn why most relationship advice doesn’t work, and how shifting from individualism to a shared “Us” mindset is the key to lasting love. Discover how modern culture sabotages connection, and how to reclaim closeness through the lens of mutuality, teamwork, and relational mindfulness. Real — guiding you step by step through the Relationship Grid, boundaries, disconnection, and repair.
You’ve tried therapy, books, or “better communication”—but nothing lasts
You’re in a long-term relationship
that feels stuck or at risk
You want practical tools,
not more talk
Relational healing doesn’t come from tips and tricks. It comes from understanding the emotional stances you and your partner fall into… especially under stress.
Terry Real’s unique “Relationship Grid” reveals exactly what happens when things go wrong… and how to reconnect from the inside out.
You’ll walk away with:
This is the work most people never learn. But it’s learnable. And it works.
Terry Real is a bestselling author and the founder of Relational Life Therapy (RLT). For over 30 years, he’s helped individuals and couples break free from toxic patterns and build deeply connected, fiercely loving relationships. At the heart of Terry’s method is a profound truth: most of us are still living out survival strategies we learned as children that now sabotage our closeness and ability to meaningfully repair.
Terry offers both a map and a sophisticated toolkit to move beyond these losing strategies and practice the powerful relational skills needed to make love work. Only then can people live a truly relational life in deep connection – to themselves, each other, and the planet as a whole.
A former senior faculty member of the Family Institute of Cambridge in Massachusetts, Terry is the author of four books, including the recent New York Times bestseller Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship.
His original insights on couples therapy, relationships, and men’s issues have been featured in outlets from Oprah and Vogue to Psychotherapy Networker and CNN.
Terry’s tools have changed the lives of thousands – and earned trust across the most respected stages and platforms in the world.
You don’t have to wait for a crisis to change your relationship. You don’t have to drag your partner into therapy.
And you don’t need to keep living the same loop again and again. This is your moment to break the cycle — and build something new.
“ Terry Real’s teachings were life-changing for me and my husband. We’ve been together for over 30 years, and you’d think there wasn’t much left to learn. But this shifted us to a deeper, more loving level. My love-avoidant, grandiose man said so himself—and his love-dependent, grandiose wife agrees. We now see ourselves and each other with fresh eyes. ”
“After countless hours of therapy, Terry was the first person who actually saw the root cause of our conflict. It was a pattern, not a flaw. That changed everything.”
— C.M.